Leading atheists use science, reason, and philosophical arguments to convince people that God doesn’t exist. But few discuss at length the cultural ties that bind people to their religions. If we don’t address these issues as well, we won’t convince congregants to leave their churches, especially the women. And why the emphasis on women? Because they are the ones that provide the free labor that keeps the churches running. They organize the food for funerals, they teach Sunday School, they organize Bible Study groups, they serve on councils, and they lead choirs. In many churches, the only people who are paid for their work are the clergy, the office staff, and the janitors. If the women walked away, donations would have to be multiplied many times to pay for the work they do.

The first tie that binds people to their church is a sense of community. Even if they have doubts about the tenets of their religion, they continue to attend church because of the relationships they have made. Church is a key part of their social network and they don’t want to lose their friends. Second, there is ritual. Reciting the same liturgy week after week, singing favorite hymns, and taking communion are solemn events that are not often found elsewhere in their lives. Third, conformity. In many states, it’s hard to come out as an atheist, especially if you are the only one in your family. It’s just easier to go through the routine.

What atheists can do is be clear about their rejection of belief in God to their friends and family. People who are ready to leave their religion might then seek them out. We all need models when undertaking significant changes in our lives. If you don’t know an atheist, you are not likely to become one. —Karen L Garst